I decided to become a Relationship Coach because I was experiencing so much pain in all of my relationships. I found myself in relationships that were facing addiction, grief, blame, resentment, and painful misunderstandings. The thing was that these relationships were with my most important people, and I wanted to understand how to stay in connection with the people I care most about. That’s what led me to my own personal growth and spiritual journey. When I found The Relationship School I knew being a Relationship Coach and helping people was my soul calling.
I was that hopeless romantic girl who daydreamed about her perfect partner and the forever friends. I poured that desire for connection into my friendships and a few partners and as I grew up, I learned that I had a lot of unrealistic fantasies about what it means to be in a relationship with someone. That pain was a catalyst for my curiosity about what unconditional love truly meant. As I got into my twenties, I started to really focus on cultivating a life that felt fulfilled and authentic because after the devastating passing of my high school first love and my grandmother, I realized how much pain I was truly in. I was beginning to really understand how numbed out I had been living. I wanted to understand why I was suffering not just from grief but from years of sadness that I didn’t understand. It was like a lightbulb went off and I realized how painful it was to not know my authentic self. I felt like there had to be a better way to live so I began searching for answers. The healing I have found learning to live as my authentic self is what I desire to help others with as well.
Also, in my twenties I was beginning a relationship with my now husband. We had known each other since we were kids and though we dated off and on as teenagers, reconnecting in our twenties was brand new which also brought new challenges. We have been together for over ten years and in that time, we have had many beautiful moments together as well as really hard moments. I learned that I was missing some important tools and skills to have a truly deep and intimate marriage. This ignited my desire to learn to be the best partner I could be and have a truly fulfilling partnership. I wanted to understand how to move through the tough moments as a team while also being true to ourselves. Being with my husband has been my biggest invitation of personal growth and accountability and continues to teach me how to truly hold compassion and empathy for others. Experiencing the transformation in my own marriage is what makes me so passionate about helping other couples on their journeys for connection.
For me learning to cultivate empathy, grace, safety, and understanding for ourselves and others is the healing we all deserve. I feel deeply passionate about relational development and personal growth; a path I am excited to share with you!
